Have you ever had a conversation with a friend where you’ve brought up an exciting plan for your business, or have just generally spoken about your venture, for it to be met with
‘oh… cool’s or sometimes a completely different subject? Have you felt a bit shitty after said conversations?
Well, I have a truth for you. Don't hang out with them. Those people do not get it.
When it comes to being a One Girl Band, working for yourself and by yourself, it is of the utmost importance that you surround yourself with people who get it.
It’s no secret that being a One Girl Band can be incredibly lonely and isolating sometimes. If you work from home by yourself, your only daily interactions seem to come from the cat or the postman (my postman is called Dave by the way, he has a lizard and a motorcycle and loves making comments on my many ASOS deliveries..).
This can obviously screw with our heads a bit. There’s no one around to bounce ideas off, to ask for help or to just vent to, and we can start to go inside ourselves, thinking and rethinking every little thing until we've chiselled away at our confidence and self-esteem.
So, when we do finally see another human being and we start talking about our ventures, it can cause all sorts of shitstorms in our heads when our successes and achievements are met with cold shoulders or even just ignored.
It’s actually one of the many reasons why I started One Girl Band; so that we could have a place to go where we would be surrounded by like-minded women who just got it; who understand each of our challenges, worries and trials in this crazy race called self-employment; who help us celebrate our successes, no matter how big or small, because they know just how it feels to have a pat on the back when they’ve done something they’re proud of.
So, my point this week is to be wary of those who don’t clap when you win, and seek those who give you a round of applause for the little wins; they're your people, and they're who are going to help reach your definition of success.